Believe it or not, there was a time when I, too, felt like I made a wrong decision about my husband. From pretending everything was ok to threatening to divorce and constantly feeling like it’s my fault.

Within 3 months of meeting the man of my life, we got married!

We were on cloud nine when we dated, we said that we were destined to be together and everything was amazing!

However, 1 year into the marriage we were fighting so much that we wanted to call it quits.

Before marriage, my husband loved my spontaneity and he would be excited about my impromptu ideas.

After marriage, he got so upset and blamed me for not consulting him when I planned things.

He would often say..
“Why you never consult me?”
“Why you never consider my feelings??”
“Why you never think of my situation???”

I felt really like a really terrible wife each time he questioned and blamed me for what I did.

Everything I did seems to be wrong.

Even though we set boundaries and rules, that no issues should be unresolved before the next sunrise... we still continued to fight. 

In the attempt to resolve our conflicts, both of us kept trying to explain our side, so nobody was really listening.

The argument got more and more heated and we started to use all forms of strategies to bring a point across like blaming, cold shoulder, shaming each other in front of our children.

When we saw our children stressed out, that was our turning point.

I started to question myself, why did I made such a fast decision to get married and felt like I had married a completely different person.

I asked myself...
“Why am I always the bad person?”
“Where did all our excitement and adventure in our relationship go?”
“Do I want to continue to tolerate being blamed?”

I got so frustrated to the point that I told my husband, "If you are not going to change we are going to file for a divorce tomorrow."

We were planning to look for divorce lawyers.

We were desperate.